Is it me, or is it you?

When people don’t like you (or they do like you, but not your viewpoints and what you are saying, but today it’s very hard to differ the person from the matter, so usually they don’t like you. Period).  Anyway, when this happens, I can see two reasons for it:

  1. It could be so that your auras or chemistries (or whatever is making people coincide, or not) collides and clash. Then there is not much you can do about it. If you are married – divorce. If you work together – get a new job. If you are friends – hang out with other friends and if you are Facebook friends –  defriend. Problem solved.
  2. Or it is simply you who are wrong. Not the other person. You find out by looking inwards and analyze. Why do I react like this? What is it with this person’s viewpoints that I dislike and, most importantly -WHY! Explain that to yourself and decide on a consequence. It could possibly still be divorce or defriendship, or it could be so that you realize something new and start to think differently.

What’s most important, is that you, without hate to the other person (hate which consumes oceans of energy you can spend on better things like exercise, kissing you children or sex), go on with your life.

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The concept of time

I have a hard time to get my mind around this thing with time. In 10 minutes we are off for “high school” information session for this dude

I can’t understand that I am a parent to a soon high school student 👨‍🎓 …

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Far from the limit

My weekend – what did I do? Absolutely nothing!

Icleaned the house (kitchen and living room, more correctly) Saturday. Not the spare room, which needs it desperately. I also washed both cars. But the laundry was not done.

The husband was away for soccer and work, so my company was limited. But Sam joined me (freely I’d like to add) in the couch Saturday. But there was nothing to watch on the TV or streaming services and there was to energy do do something else.

Yesterday, I took a 10 min date with a friend I hadn’t seen in years by the train tracks and a beach walk with the dog.

Yep, I guess that summarizes it. Joined the not working husband to a floor ball game on Sunday night, more to have done SOMETHING together. But I would say that I could have done more this weekend. But at least I got rested.

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Why so hard?

When reading “stuff” on social media I get surprised (?)/sadden (?) about how many who dislike themselves and what they have/haven’t done.

I don’t wonder why. That’s pretty obvious. But why is it hard for folks to like themselves?

What happen in my life that made me think that I’m an awesome person, just like I am.

And then I don’t think so much about other people and continue to enjoy myself.

Photo from Villfararlser (see Instagram) the text says “I was so fabulous I got annoyed”

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The note

Found this, and lots of other memorabilia, in a bag my parents had saved.

The note with number and address the Mr gave me when we first met 25 years ago. Blessed to have found him and to continue loving him.

I don’t know if it was a blessing or not that I didn’t realize our fab looks.

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Lessons learnt

Almost a week has past with not only without my husband but also my children! What have I learnt?

  • I do enjoy my husband’s company, he is quite a lot of fun
  • Without my children I have oceans of time (I new that already, but still)
  • Without children I don’t need to eat different dishes every day
  • Without children I don’t need to eat (supper) every day
  • If I’m board I sleep or take ridiculous SnapChat selfies
  • I would not have a dog if I was single
  • Refurnishing can go very fast if I put my mind into it
  • I would spend enormous amount of money on movie visits if I was single
  • The project I am in is awesome
  • I’m not half as controlling as people might think (didn’t have any problem coping with the fact that F got injured and The Mr needed to deal with it him self. Naturally I was worried, but not stressed. I knew I have children with a man who left the Neanderthal stage a few generations back)
  • I have great friends who checked in to see I was fine and invited me out
  • Parts of me was happy to miss out on the skiing, the slopes were beyond my skills and I would have been pissed most of the time for not daring to ride them without tonnes of anxiety
  • I never want my family to go on vacay without me ever again
  • I love my family unbelievable and possibly unhealthy much
Me and my family Oct 27 2012, photo: Pontus Höök
Photo: Pontus Höök
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Just like that

Mr F broke his arm 1.5 hrs into the ski vacation in the Austrian alps. The Dock children and their skiing traditions…

Never the less. The Mr and I discussed shortly if F should fly home by him self. And a couple of hours later they called. My loving parents. 80 years old, they come to the rescue. Saying if he fly home by himself, he should stay with them (as I’m working). Best role models available.

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