I admire the people who dare to go after their dreams. Like Lilly here. She’s a great performer, who not only loves writing and singing music, she does it. And she does it well.


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Sometimes I notice how limiting others (especially grown-ups) are towards other people. It’s especially upsetting when they are it towards children (and naturally my own). Do not limit the brains of a youngster! Let them believe they can accomplish anything and everything.

Hopefully, with my awareness, I’m not. On the other hand I know that also I am stuck with my preconceived notions and thereby limit the world around them in one way or another.

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One of my paths to happiness

Ending the year with some reflections. I often don’t recognize myself in others. One thing that was brought to my attention the other day was my ability to take and be content with my decisions.

I believe that my ability to master the balance between sense and sensibility, is one of the reasons to why I am able to often be very content in my decisions. The second is that I know myself ridiculously well (which I believe is comes from allowing myself to be brutally honest towards myself).

The ability to combine sense and sensibility is far from congenital. In my early 30’s I went to a (career) coach where I learned so much about myself. One thing was to listen and rely on my gut. I felt things in my gut prior to this, but I never listened. All (conscious) decisions were taken In my head.

The second part, to be brutally honest, comes from a very strong self worth (or if it is the other way around, haven’t done any deeper analysis here). I AM the most important person in my life. And I (as nobody else) am benefited by being lied to.

Now just wait a second, before you go all crazy on my. Me defining myself as the most important person isn’t about the outer, material world. It is about the (my) inner, emotional world. Which entitles me to feel good about myself. This includes that I, at times, separate my feelings from my husband’s, my children’s, my parents’, my friends’, neighbors’, colleagues’ you name it.

This combined with my fast track to my gut, allows me to be able to very fast take decisions. Decisions that I seldom worry about, or contemplate over when taken – which contributes to my path of happiness.

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Today our youngest and I went to the mall. Fabian fabulous HAD to spend some of that Christmas gift money and a gift card from his birthday party.

A good day with choices, purchases, more choices, returns and new purchases. We came home very satisfied (especially after mum got some help fixing the armband of F’s watch, which she broke seconds after him receiving it… and a trip to the always so closed bank office)..

Good talks and explaining of different choices in life. Mum and sons rule!

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Next step

For a good 1.5 to two years I have been living  the “easy life”, meaning no new goals or challenges (yes, since I am one of those who just loves a good challenge…).

I’ve been very content where I am and where my life is. I have had (and still have) a good assignment, good clients, the family has been/is at a good place. I just hadn’t had any wish or drive to do anything else/more/different with my life.  Maybe that was exactly what we needed after a year of making the biggest change (at least for the kids) by moving and building a new house.

I have made some minor engagements as devoting myself to my own interests (as well as supporting the rest of the family in theirs) like:

  • getting politically involved locally
  • getting a PT to kick my ass every week
  • refine my soccer photography skills
  • re-joining the equestrian religion.

But much else from working and securing that the kids don’t make a total fool of themselves socially and academically I have done very little. I’m not saying that it bad, less, or nothing . But looking at my live vision I have done very little (at least what I can see today) that will take me towards it.

I guess talking about it here shows that I am ready, ready to start doing something more. Devoting time to assess my life vision and what steps I need taking.  I guess that will be my goal for 2018. I know what my fist step will be, to get in touch with two people I know can help me figure out things and start with my personal why á la Simon Sinek

Simon's why

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Happy holidays

From all of us, to all of you a very merry Christmas!

(Yes, I know there could have been more pics of me, but now there’re not, just live with it. I’m not sad so there is no need for you to be 😉😘).

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